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Louise Tilbrook ✨'s avatar

Oh heavens. I heard that line a lot growing up as well as "money doesn't grow on trees". Both lines that have shaped so much of my attitudes and identity. It's hard to unpick it but at the same time really freeing. To say that you can want something and the world doesn't come crashing down just because you've articulated your want.

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Pippa's avatar

I agree, it's hard bit so worth it. Though I can't say I'm there yet, wherever 'there' is but I'm working towards it:)

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Amanda Clark's avatar

What an amazing way to turn envy on its head. That could be a powerful tool for greater self awareness. Thank you for sharing!

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Pippa's avatar

I agree, it will do so much good. Thank you for reading🥰

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Susie Mawhinney's avatar

I remember my father saying those exact words to me Pippa, I still hear them now when I see something out of reach... I try so hard to be accepting of the life I have, after all it IS the life I chose but envy does creep in. Especially when spent with friends who have achieved so much more ( in my opinion ) than I have. It is fleeting though... I don’t allow the chapter called resentment to even begin. I am happy, isn’t that enough?

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Pippa's avatar

Yes, feeling like others have achieved more! I can definitely relate. I'm happy that you are happy, I definitely think that is enough even if doesn't feel like it all of the time:) xx

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Frankie's avatar

Thank you for this Pippa!

I can relate to this on a very deep level. Its kind of crazy because I've also been thinking about the exact same topics lately and talking about them a lot with my partner, so it was really refreshing to get to hear your thoughts and have another point of view in the conversation.

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Pippa's avatar

I'm so happy this resonated with you! How funny that this has also been on your mind! Great minds think alike....😘

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A. Wilder Westgate's avatar

I think envy and resentment are often coupled for me - especially since becoming a parent. I have recently been realizing that while I will probably always be a bit jealous of others (I love and want to experience SO many things, so this makes sense!) I am also more capable than I thought of making certain things happen for myself that make me feel more fulfilled. And even the smallest steps - even just the act of *doing* - has been so helpful

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Pippa's avatar

I agree,they are connected. It's great that you are able to make things happen, that is something I still struggel with that sometimes

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A. Wilder Westgate's avatar

It's taken a long time. I guess I thought a lot of things would just come more naturally, but I'm having to learn a lot which was frustrating to discover but has begun to feel more empowering.

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Hunter Burgtorf's avatar

This is beautiful, Pippa. It's so interesting how a line we've been told as children can shape the way we view ourselves as adults. You were conditioned not to want, and therefore, you didn't even know what you want. I love that you're going on the journey of discovering what exactly it is that you want. It's a beautiful one to be on. Thank you for sharing!

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Pippa's avatar

Thank you Hunter,it is very interesting!

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