Oh heavens. I heard that line a lot growing up as well as "money doesn't grow on trees". Both lines that have shaped so much of my attitudes and identity. It's hard to unpick it but at the same time really freeing. To say that you can want something and the world doesn't come crashing down just because you've articulated your want.
I remember my father saying those exact words to me Pippa, I still hear them now when I see something out of reach... I try so hard to be accepting of the life I have, after all it IS the life I chose but envy does creep in. Especially when spent with friends who have achieved so much more ( in my opinion ) than I have. It is fleeting though... I don’t allow the chapter called resentment to even begin. I am happy, isn’t that enough?
I can relate to this on a very deep level. Its kind of crazy because I've also been thinking about the exact same topics lately and talking about them a lot with my partner, so it was really refreshing to get to hear your thoughts and have another point of view in the conversation.
I think envy and resentment are often coupled for me - especially since becoming a parent. I have recently been realizing that while I will probably always be a bit jealous of others (I love and want to experience SO many things, so this makes sense!) I am also more capable than I thought of making certain things happen for myself that make me feel more fulfilled. And even the smallest steps - even just the act of *doing* - has been so helpful
This is beautiful, Pippa. It's so interesting how a line we've been told as children can shape the way we view ourselves as adults. You were conditioned not to want, and therefore, you didn't even know what you want. I love that you're going on the journey of discovering what exactly it is that you want. It's a beautiful one to be on. Thank you for sharing!
Oh heavens. I heard that line a lot growing up as well as "money doesn't grow on trees". Both lines that have shaped so much of my attitudes and identity. It's hard to unpick it but at the same time really freeing. To say that you can want something and the world doesn't come crashing down just because you've articulated your want.
What an amazing way to turn envy on its head. That could be a powerful tool for greater self awareness. Thank you for sharing!
I remember my father saying those exact words to me Pippa, I still hear them now when I see something out of reach... I try so hard to be accepting of the life I have, after all it IS the life I chose but envy does creep in. Especially when spent with friends who have achieved so much more ( in my opinion ) than I have. It is fleeting though... I don’t allow the chapter called resentment to even begin. I am happy, isn’t that enough?
Thank you for this Pippa!
I can relate to this on a very deep level. Its kind of crazy because I've also been thinking about the exact same topics lately and talking about them a lot with my partner, so it was really refreshing to get to hear your thoughts and have another point of view in the conversation.
I think envy and resentment are often coupled for me - especially since becoming a parent. I have recently been realizing that while I will probably always be a bit jealous of others (I love and want to experience SO many things, so this makes sense!) I am also more capable than I thought of making certain things happen for myself that make me feel more fulfilled. And even the smallest steps - even just the act of *doing* - has been so helpful
This is beautiful, Pippa. It's so interesting how a line we've been told as children can shape the way we view ourselves as adults. You were conditioned not to want, and therefore, you didn't even know what you want. I love that you're going on the journey of discovering what exactly it is that you want. It's a beautiful one to be on. Thank you for sharing!